“A hero is an ordinary individual who finds the strength to persevere and endure in spite of overwhelming obstacles.” – Christopher Reeve

journey of hero

The Hero’s journey also describes the life journey or quest that someone undertakes when living their own legend. We all have a strong desire to be true to ourselves. We are longing to follow our own vision and dreams without being guided excessively by the expectations of others, unresolved emotions or oppressive patterns. But that’s easier said than done. The metaphor of the Hero’s journey gives you the scaffolding to appreciate your inner yearning

The Journey of the Hero encompasses 3 parts: the Inner Journey, the Outer Journey and a final part that is completely tailored to your needs.

            Part 1. The Inner Journey.

Many of the key issues in expat life stem from identity issues. Your identity affects every area of your life, whether it is your career, business, relationships, health or lifestyle. It is the foundation of everything you do. The inner journey explores the core of your being while working on your unique coaching question.

How part 1 (the Inner Journey) is organized.

The Inner Journey starts with a written intake. It’s of great importance for you to choose the right ‘coaching question(s)’. What would you like to have changed about yourself at the end of the coaching program? Your question or problem will be the common thread running through all coaching sessions. (Examples: loneliness, procrastination, grief, culture shock, identity issues, restlessness, relationship problems, problems with your expat children).

We will have a look at your current situation, identify ‘problematic’ areas and explore your needs. Because you are living abroad it is also important to have a good look at the filters arising from your cultural identity. A comparison of your home and host country might provide some new insights and promote bicultural competence. We will do several biographical exercises (both written and graphical) and identify your life themes and patterns. A deep understanding of who you are helps with the realization of your true identity. Choices made on your own life story are authentic and durable. We will look at past, present and future. We might make a soul collage, an inventory of your unlived life, do visualization exercises, a personality test– all depending on what you need. Subsequently we will have a look at your subpersonalities (who is your saboteur?), explore your core qualities and pitfalls and identify your challenges and allergies.

Benefits of part 1:

– understanding the challenges and gifts of expat life for trailing spouses
– cultural competence
– an answer to your unique coaching question(s)
– tools and strategies developed to make those changes you really need and want
– insight in your unique identity, life themes, core qualities, pitfalls, allergies etc.

This allows you to make effective decisions and overcome procrastination because you can cut through confusion and overwhelm. All these ingredients will give guidance to develop a steady path in both your private and professional life.

              Part 2. The Outer Journey.

After completion of part 1, you will know what’s important to you and what you deeply care about, you know your life themes, qualities, patterns, pitfalls etc. Translating all this to your life in the outside world is the next essential step in order to be able to have a fulfilling personal and professional life. Since most trailing spouses will need to pursue a new career path, this step is not an easy one … but very exciting and full of inspiration! It’s a chance for self-enrichment and reinvention.

How part 2 (The Outer Journey) is organized

You will further discover and develop your true identity and translate this to your activities in the outside world. Without a clear understanding of your passion and purpose it is almost impossible to niche, brand or promote yourself to the right audience. That means that you feel aimless, lost, your business struggles or your career becomes a burden. In part 2 of the program we will identify and map you mission, vision, core values and core qualities. We’ll use 360 degree reviews and a vocation sheet to find you ‘bliss’; the intersection of what you do well, what you love, what the world needs and what the world will pay for. We will identify opportunities and threats in the international and intercultural context. Finally, you will make a master plan for the next 5-10 years: what you really want, using your talents, with smart and challenging goals. Preferably a ‘mobile’ plan, so you don’t need to start all over after your next move.

Benefits of part 2:

This is the path of knowing what you want instead of knowing what you don’t want, the development of a portable (=international and intercultural) and meaningful (professional) identity. At the end of the Outer Journey you will have formulated: your mission, vision, core qualities, core values and vocation. And you will have your (mobile) master plan ready for the next 5-10 years. A new career and a fulfilling life are waiting!

        Part 3. Final part.

This part consists of 4 sessions and is completely tailored to your needs. What else is needed to feel fulfilled and manifest yourself (professionally) in the outside world?

How part 3 (final part) is organized

We will have an evaluation of the inner and outer journey and decide how to proceed. Quite a few accompanying partners profit from a course in self-esteem. Some need help in setting up a business (plan) or further develop ‘the brand me’. Expat moms might want to know more about helping their TCK’s (Third Culture Kids) during transition or finding a new balance for themselves.

Duration of the Program

Duration of the Journey of the Hero is 5-9 months (depending on the interval of the sessions, between weekly and bimonthly)

If you choose this program, you will receive a full report of your coaching journey. A valuable compass to stay on track in the future!

This is your call. You can be a hero. Do you accept this call and start on a great adventure, called meaningful life?